What do you really want for your children?

I was fortunate to get a hand on Wayne Dyer's book 'What do you really want for your children?'. I have seen many parents worried about their child's behaviour. "He is not able to decide something on his own. But his younger sister is very clear what she wants!" "He is not mingling with relatives." "He is not having many friends." "He sits in front of the TV for a long time." and so on... One very important exercise we need to do is to list "What we really want for our children?" Once we are clear what we want to build in our children the next step is to work towards it, to devote time to help your child to think on those lines.

Suppose you think that you want your child to take 'informed decisions' then look for the opportunities to trigger the thinking.
"Mom! I want an ice creame!"
instead of you saying "No. No. Not at this time!" ask
"remember what happened last time when you had ice cream at night?"
"No!"
"remember you got a soar throat and then cold. and then we had to give you medicine! You still want to eat ice cream now or you think we can have it in the morning!"
"Hmmm... "
(I don't know what a child would decide. But At least we are making the child to think on the effect of a decision and then make the choice. :)

The book was a very interesting and thought provoking one! If you come across one, please send me a copy too... :)

LET THE CHILD BLOSSOM